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1. The person wont let you go home or see your friends very often or at all. 2. The person uses passive aggressive comments to you into doing what he/she wants. 3. The person makes you believe that you are too broken, ugly or useless to be wanted by someone else. 4. You need approval for everything. The person treats you like property not as a person. 5. The person continues to do things that he/she knows will upset you and blames it on you because you are "overreacting". 6. The person threatens to kill his/her self when you muster up the strength to leave so you stay and are manipulated even more. ABUSE is NOT always PHYSICAL. Courtesy by Little Things

جذباتی بدسلوکی بہت اہم سماجی مسلئہ ہے. اس کی کچھ شناختیں مندرجہ ذیل میں بیان کی جا رہی ہیں: آپ کو مکمل طور پر یا اکثر و بیشتر اپنے دوستوں یا گھر والوں سے ملنے نہ دینا. غیر فعال جارحانہ تبصرہ کرتے ہوۓ صرف اپنی مرضی کے کام کروانا. آپ میں عدم اعتماد پیدا کرنا کہ آپ بدصورت اور ناکارہ ہیں اور آپ کو کوئی نہیں چاہتا آپ سے انسان کی بجانے بطور ملکیت پیش آنا. اور آپ کو ہر کام کے لئے اجازت منگوانا. جانتے  بوجھتے آپ کو پریشان کرنے والے کام کرنا . اور الزام بھی آپ پر لگانا کے آپ کے ردعمل کے اظہار کے  نتیجے میں سب معاملات خراب ہوے ہیں. جب بھی آپ چھوڑنے کی ہمت کا مظاہرہ کریں تو خود کو ختم کرنے کی دھمکی دیتے ہوۓ اپ کو روک لینا اور پہلے سے زیادہ استحصال کرنا. دوستوں، زیادتی/ بدسلوکی صرف جسمانی نہیں ہوتی. اس کے خلاف شعور پیدا کریں اور آوازاٹھائیں... بشکریہ  Little Things

Lots of People send me LinkedIn messages requesting for any employment opportunity in the company I work. Mostly, I follow the standard procedures and help them as far as it is possible. Sometimes, I receive a strange request like "Can I get a job which I want"? When I was evaluating the notion of 'what I want' and 'what I am capable of', there came a thought about the mentioned phrases. First, What I want is related to the desire which reflects the wishes of individual for themselves. Sometimes such view are inculcated   by others who always praise without reason. For example, saying that you have a great potential to a person who has no knowledge and experience of a particular field results in raising the false hopes. However, people are more judgmental and accurate in assessing others but they judge as per their own criteria and environment (not as per job requirement). Keeping such situations in mind, the image of self should be very clear when y...

This blog was written a year back but just found it in the trash. After reading it, I came to know every word once written is important. Without any alteration in this blog, everything is in front of you. I belong to Pakistan which is considered to be the heaven of terrorist. People think of Pakistan as everyone is holding a Kalashnikov and pointing at the world's most peaceful citizens "Citizens of US". The general impression you get is that a person is blowing himself resulting in casualties. I do not prefer to watch TV and the only reason is that I do not get enough time to watch it. When I watch a serial or a Movie unfinished, it haunts me and I am miserable in such condition. Pakistani's are common people but they are unfortunate that their country has such an awesome strategic location for economic growth but it is ruined due to war economy and conflict. Due to the interest of hegemon , they seldom get a chance to get developed. I have never been to a...

Many surrounding thoughts are usually different from what you think. The way you think and execute your plan; it makes the real difference and that's the beauty of human diversity. On the verge of my twenties, I realized that infatuation is the only thing which has a strong influence on me. A time came when my best friend told me that "Atif, my friend, mark my words: You will never fall in love." I was sure that I belong to that particular category of man who may never fall in love; never will. I joined recently in an international corporate industry and went through the difficult times during the initial period. After three months of joining, I saw a beautiful girl, long hair, black eyes, yellow skin, and fine hair. Graceful personality and perfect grooming etiquettes were a plus point, but her excellent communication skills and computer expertise were a perfect combination in delivering the customer services and administration task...

This was four months and two weeks that I h been staying in Dubai, UAE. There is no doubt that Dubai is the most organized city in the world. It rules and laws are facilitating and equally applicable to all. The life in Dubai has its charming attraction either you go to Palm Deira, Jumeirah Lake Tower, Dubai Mall, Mall of Emirates, Beach, Burj ul Arab, Dancing Fountain or Desert Safari. Anywhere you go you are bound to enjoy the cultural diversity and tasty food from around the world. The mix offers you much. The policies are human friendly; everyone is surely ready to help you. This is, no doubt, the land of opportunities and promising life. As I moved to Dubai, I started living with my relatives. This reduced my chances of being homesick to zero. As we all know, real family is real so you can't avoid missing them. My relatives who are now very very dear to me gave me every possible opportunity to be happy. On the other hand, I also tried to mix with the culture. We went for vi...

Hey guys, These days technology is really helping us improve our health to spend better and long life. We all know well that every week we learn about least five research papers which talk about health. I thought to look forward to one of the research paper so that I may look forward to better stable life. It was about eating sugar. I used to consume less sugar and then a news appeared before my eyes stating that sugar is not good for people in general but it is very helpful for brain cells to have glucose during any mental activity and sugary stuff thus be consumed remains productive. Wow, then I changed my schedule for sugar and started consuming more sugar specifically chocolates. Soon, I came to know that sugar is not good for your health as it can cause obese and may lead to early death. I thought, "Dude, I gotta control myself or I will die early, I am just 24. Who wants to die early???" So, once again I changed my eating habits and started consuming as little sugar a...